“A need to leave. A need so fierce that it has been matched, in my life, only by two other needs: to eat and to throw up.”— Marya Hornbacher
“And from bitter people I learned bitter languages”— Yehuda Amichai (1924 - 2000), from “My Parents’ Migration“
in “The Poetry Of Yehuda Amichai”, edited by Robert Alter
It’s not that you have issues…… it’s that you have a tendency to continue using instincts you picked up in childhood that are no longer useful to you on your journey towards achieving openness and intimacy and reliability in your personal relationships w others. It’s not that you’re defective or difficult or incapable it’s just that what you learned to do to save yourself from the experience of abandonment or rejection or ridicule or failure is not helpful here anymore and you need to start thinking creatively and collaborating on better ways to cope with that instrinsic fear that you are not correct, that you are faking, that you will be found out and left, whatever it is
Like any
unloved thing, I don’t know if I’m real
when I’m not being touched.
(Source: lifeinpoetry)
